Coaching Snippet: On Living Playfully
INT. KITCHEN TABLE. MORNING
I am sitting at my desk in front of the computer talking
to JULES who is 3000 miles and 2 time zones away. Although
speaking online is now a new Corona-time reality, with JULES
it is our norm as she is based in NYC. She is filling me
in with great detail on all that she is having to deal
with, in lockdown with her family around her constantly.
From the way you're speaking I
want to ask you, what is it that
you feel you need right now?
JULES thinks for a while and then thumps her fists on the
table. She tilts the camera for me to see.
This is what I need.
What is that?
(She thumps them again)
What is the feeling behind this?
I feel like a moth fluttering near
a lamp at night. I am drawn to the
light, but it can also roast me. I
need a rest. To touch the ground.
How do you think you can be more
JULES thinks for a while, inhales deeply and lets out a big sigh.
Exactly. (She laughs)
Sometimes I help my son balance on
a big Swiss Ball. I give him my
hand, and then just a finger. Even
just one finger makes such a
difference for him. Just one
finger makes it so much easier to
When I feel "attacked" by so many
things at a time, and things are
in constant change, I need to find
that hand, or even just that
finger, to help me balance.
Yes, although, things always
change. We often feel like we have
a sense of what's happening, and
some control over it. But really,
it is a fake sense of control,
because we never really know. Now
we are just more aware of it - of
the not knowing. Really, the only
constant thing in this world is
JULES laughs again.
So what can I do? When I am
balancing on that ball?
How about changing the word
'attack' to 'invitation'?
JULES is laughing again, seeing where this is heading.
That makes it sound better of
course. It feels like I can come
up with ideas.
Yes! You are invited to manage the
balancing on the ball and so you
become more curious, and open to
new possibilities because there's
nothing to be protected from.
I think I get it. Not having to
protect myself means I can find
more things to be supported by on
the ball. It makes me feel bigger.
You can also decide to become the
*names and places have been change to honour privacy
Illustration by Evie Fridel