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Coaching Snippet: On Living Playfully



INT. KITCHEN TABLE. MORNING


I am sitting at my desk in front of the computer talking

to JULES who is 3000 miles and 2 time zones away. Although

speaking online is now a new Corona-time reality, with JULES

it is our norm as she is based in NYC. She is filling me

in with great detail on all that she is having to deal

with, in lockdown with her family around her constantly.


ME

From the way you're speaking I

want to ask you, what is it that

you feel you need right now?


JULES thinks for a while and then thumps her fists on the

table. She tilts the camera for me to see.


JULES

This is what I need.


ME

What is that?


JULES

This.

(She thumps them again)


ME

What is the feeling behind this?


JULES

I feel like a moth fluttering near

a lamp at night. I am drawn to the

light, but it can also roast me. I

need a rest. To touch the ground.


ME

How do you think you can be more

grounded?


JULES thinks for a while, inhales deeply and lets out a big sigh.


COACH

Exactly. (She laughs)


JULES

Sometimes I help my son balance on

a big Swiss Ball. I give him my

hand, and then just a finger. Even

just one finger makes such a

difference for him. Just one

finger makes it so much easier to

balance.

When I feel "attacked" by so many

things at a time, and things are

in constant change, I need to find

that hand, or even just that

finger, to help me balance.


ME

Yes, although, things always

change. We often feel like we have

a sense of what's happening, and

some control over it. But really,

it is a fake sense of control,

because we never really know. Now

we are just more aware of it - of

the not knowing. Really, the only

constant thing in this world is

change.


JULES laughs again.


JULES

So what can I do? When I am

balancing on that ball?


ME

How about changing the word

'attack' to 'invitation'?


JULES is laughing again, seeing where this is heading.


JULES

That makes it sound better of

course. It feels like I can come

up with ideas.


ME

Yes! You are invited to manage the

balancing on the ball and so you

become more curious, and open to

new possibilities because there's

nothing to be protected from.


JULES

I think I get it. Not having to

protect myself means I can find

more things to be supported by on

the ball. It makes me feel bigger.


ME

You can also decide to become the

ball.


*names and places have been change to honour privacy


Illustration by Evie Fridel





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