Coaching Snippet: on Remembering Yourself
INT. LIVING ROOM. LATE MORNING
ANA and I sit in the living-room, tea cups in our hands. It's
raining outside. We've been talking for about 40 minutes.
Checking in on the body, and where ANA feels the tension when
we talk about what she has brought in today, she takes a deep
breath, and sighs.
I can't meditate. I can't empty my
head of thoughts.
What is the purpose of emptying
your head of thoughts?
Isn't that what meditation for?
Isn't that what meditation is?
I see meditation as the noticing of
your thoughts. Not banishing them.
And then what?
And when you see your thoughts,
when you notice them, you remember
your breath, and go back to
Mmmm.... Yes, the breath.
For me, meditation is the act of
remembering your breath, and when
you do, going back to noticing it -
that's when your 'thoughts' - the
ones you are trying to "lose" make
way for the breath.
I need to try...
Coaching for me is similar to
meditation in that for me, it is a
remembering - of who we are.
How is that?
When we talk, you hopefully get the
space to remember who you are out
of context of what you are dealing
with. Then you can access your
core, so you can act in alignment
with it. We very rarely get this
perspective in our day to day. A
coaching conversation is when we
get a glimpse of that. We remember.
It's true that when we talk - it
makes me see things differently.
And when you do, you create some
distance - a gap - and your
reactions become responses, your
actions become internally
motivated, because you can see -
and distill - your internal
That's how I know what I want.
Yes. And - you have the back to do,
and indeed be, what you want.
*names and places have been change to honour privacy
Illustration by Evie Fridel