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Coaching Snippet: on Remembering Yourself


INT. LIVING ROOM. LATE MORNING


ANA and I sit in the living-room, tea cups in our hands. It's

raining outside. We've been talking for about 40 minutes.

Checking in on the body, and where ANA feels the tension when

we talk about what she has brought in today, she takes a deep

breath, and sighs.


ANA

I can't meditate. I can't empty my

head of thoughts.


ME

What is the purpose of emptying

your head of thoughts?


ANA

Isn't that what meditation for?

Isn't that what meditation is?


ME

I see meditation as the noticing of

your thoughts. Not banishing them.


ANA

And then what?


ME

And when you see your thoughts,

when you notice them, you remember

your breath, and go back to

noticing it.


ANA

Mmmm.... Yes, the breath.


ME

For me, meditation is the act of

remembering your breath, and when

you do, going back to noticing it -

that's when your 'thoughts' - the

ones you are trying to "lose" make

way for the breath.


ANA

I need to try...


ME

Coaching for me is similar to

meditation in that for me, it is a

remembering - of who we are.


ANA

How is that?


ME

When we talk, you hopefully get the

space to remember who you are out

of context of what you are dealing

with. Then you can access your

core, so you can act in alignment

with it. We very rarely get this

perspective in our day to day. A

coaching conversation is when we

get a glimpse of that. We remember.


ANA

It's true that when we talk - it

makes me see things differently.


ME

And when you do, you create some

distance - a gap - and your

reactions become responses, your

actions become internally

motivated, because you can see -

and distill - your internal

motivation.


ANA

That's how I know what I want.


ME

Yes. And - you have the back to do,

and indeed be, what you want.



*names and places have been change to honour privacy


Illustration by Evie Fridel

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