Coaching Snippet: On Finding Balance
INT. DAY. OFFICE DESK
We are talking online and ZARA is talking about her sense of
being attacked from all directions. Dealing with emotional
trauma, as well as pressures around schedules, and her team
members' personal stresses, she is feeling overwhelmed, and
like nothing she does is construed correctly.
What makes you think they
They all think I am being dramatic,
and making myself the centre of it
all. When actually I am trying to
tread carefully, and take everyone
into account. It's like this heavy
weight on my shoulders.
So what do you think is causing
Maybe it's the fact I apologise so
much. So it feels like I am
justifying myself, and messing up
all the time.
Apologise? For what?
For being emotional, for not
knowing what the right thing to do
And how would you prefer it to have
I wish I was more resilient. That I
didn't get so emotional, maybe.
That things would get into me less,
so that I would be less fragile.
How can you do that?
I wish I could put a sign on my
head - "UNDER CONSTRUCTION".
We both laugh.
What is being constructed?
And how do you do that?
ZARA thinks for a while. She is not sure.
Through work? I collaborate with
people? Talk to family? Friends?
I don't know.
She thinks some more for quite a while.
I'd like to reflect to you, that
you suggest things that are outward
facing: work, people around you.
How do you think you might be able
to do this within yourself?
ZARA thinks for a long time. Her kids' giggles are audible from
behind the closed door. Then she lets out a deep sigh.
She looks a bit perplexed, and then immediately laughs
Oh, yes. The breath. I forgot about
that. I need to breathe.
She takes a DEEP BREATH and there's silence between us. She
takes another one, and something in her body shifts. Her
shoulders seem to relax and her face opens with the renewed
air. It's like she's waking up.
*names and places have been change to honour privacy
Illustration by Evie Fridel